Harmonious Bali Living: A Family Guide to Local Etiquette and Integration

  Bali's beauty lies as much in its community spirit as in its landscapes. For expat families, integrating into the local "Pawongan" (human-to-human) harmony is the key to a truly fulfilling island life.



  
    ## Understanding the Banjar


    The Banjar is the local neighborhood council and the heartbeat of Balinese social life. Every house belongs to a Banjar, and as an expat resident, you are a guest in their territory.


    
      - **Meet the Kelihan:** If you are renting long-term, it is polite to have your landlord or agent introduce you to the Kelihan Banjar (the head of the council).

      - **Contributions:** Many Banjars have a small monthly contribution for residents (often IDR 50,000 – 100,000) which goes towards community upkeep and security (Pecalang).

      - **Respect the Pecalang:** These traditional security officers manage traffic and safety during ceremonies. Always follow their directions with a smile.

    

  


  
    ## Ceremony Etiquette for Families


    You will inevitably be invited to or encounter a ceremony. Proper conduct shows respect for Balinese culture.


    
      - **Dress Appropriately:** When entering a temple or attending a ceremony, wear a sarong and sash. For men, an "udeng" (headcloth) is a nice touch. Ensure your shoulders are covered.

      - **Seating:** Never sit higher than the priest or the offerings. If everyone is sitting on the floor, you should too.

      - **Photography:** Always ask before taking photos, and never use flash during prayers. Avoid standing in front of people who are praying.

      - **Kids and Ceremonies:** Balinese love children and they are generally welcome. Ensure they remain respectful and don't touch the offerings (Canang Sari) on the ground.

    

  


  
    ## Learning the Language of the Heart


    While English is common, a few phrases in Bahasa Indonesia or Balinese will open doors and hearts.


    
      - **Suksma:** "Thank you" in Balinese. It always gets a smile.

      - **Permisi:** "Excuse me." Use it when walking in front of people or entering a space.

      - **Apa Kabar?:** "How are you?" A great way to start a conversation with neighbors.

    

  


  
    ## FAQ


    ### Q: "Do I have to join the Banjar as an expat?"




    ### Q: "What should I do if a ceremony blocks my road?"




    ### Q: "Is it okay to give money at a ceremony?"